Tears on Both Sides of the Ocean (part 7)

Upon arriving in Wakayama, Eke made a bee-linewas. Grandpa Suki upon arrival took Eke by the
to her bedroom and set her luggage in the cornerhand and walked her alone to the back porch
and without even turning on a light, landed facewhere he reminded her of the importance of
down on the mattress and was immediately fastfamily and the responsibilities of Japanese children
asleep. She didn't wake up till well past noon theto honor and obey their elders and to remember
next day, which was to her good fortune sincethe importance of saving face. (It is inbred from
dad was at work and so she had time to talk toan early age in the Japanese culture that family is
mom before he returned to get a sense for whata source of stability and strength and that in
she was about to face.order to reach a child's full potential, they need
It wasn't just her dad that was the problem. Momthe support of their family.)
was cooking up a storm in the kitchen as EkeEke understood all of this and she listened
made her appearance. She soon found out, therespectfully. But she also knew what was in her
entire adult Suki family including her grandfather,heart and at the right moment, she was going to
was coming for dinner at six to talk to Eke.tell her father how she felt about Carlo and hope
"Are you hungry?" "How did you sleep", motherthat because of his love for her open his.
Suki said to her daughter. Eke nodded affirmativeThe evening from that point forward consisted of
as she sat down at the table with elbows up andEke listening to the adults talk to her about what
hands on each side of her head while she tookwas expected as a Japanese daughter and the
one last moment to gather herself before askingadvantages of miai-gekkon and how "it has
mom "what was going on." Mother Suki could seeworked for centuries in Japan" and how the
the anguish in her daughters face and walkedwestern cultures suffer from such a high rate of
over and extended her arms as Eke started oncedivorce. The case was made clear and again Eke
again to cry saying "mom, why did dad have tolistened with her head but silently thought from
do this? I only had 3 weeks left till graduation."her heart as she wished Carlo was at her side.
"Your father loves you, honey, and he only wantsThe evening seemed to last forever which is
the best for you. Just listen to him and give himoften the case when we wish we weren't there.
time and things will all work out," she concluded.But Eke got through it. The one thing that did
Eke and mom talked for the rest of theconcern her, though, and it was made very clear;
afternoon and she shared her feelings about Carlothe family had circled the wagons and convincing
and her American parents and her wonderfulthem of anything was not going to be easy.
experience in America. And this seemed to calmCarlo finished his breakfast and although it
her as her mom just listened. Mother Suki couldwouldn't have been his first choice, the food was
tell immediately that her daughter had grown a lotfilling and he was so hungry that most anything
since being in America and that she was fearfulwould have tasted good. He walked back to the
that Eke was not going to lie down and justhotel thinking that he needed to get a plan to get
accept things as they were desired by the familyin contact with Eke and/or her family. If he had
elders. This scared her for Eke was all she had -to, he could just take a chance and catch a taxi
her only daughter; her best friend; her life overand go straight to the house. But then again,
the past 19 years. But she listened with sad eyesalthough that was his preference, he knew that
and love in her heart.might be considered disrespectful. So he was
That evening, everyone started to arrive and Ekegoing to have to find a different way for now
greeted them with respect and love for hersince he had some time - He was prepared
family had always been there for her as a childfinancially to stay in Japan for up to 3 weeks. (...
and family was an important part of who she